Most women will want to have sex with their partner a couple of months after giving birth. A severe rupture will expectedly take about a month to heal. In case of rupture in the rectal sphincter muscle we advice against having anal sex during the first 2 months after the birth.
Your sex drive may naturally be diminished as long as you are breast feeding. This is due to a change in your hormonal balance which also causes you to feel dry in the vagina. Thus, you may want to use Lubricants or almond oil to avoid pain during sexual intercourse. If you want to have sex but are feeling sore inside the vagina, you can also buy a numbing gel at the pharmacy (Xylocain 2%). Lubricants, almond oil, and numbing gel can all be purchased at the pharmacy or in Matas. Lack of sleep and a change of roles in the relationship can also affect the sex drive after the birth.